It started off with a conversation about defining sexuality and the question: is sexuality based on the desire for a particular person or the desire for sex? Yes, both ends of the question deal with desire. I think that no matter which way you cut it, sexuality is based on desire more than on what you do.
(That pertains to my recent posts about heteroflexibility in that my current, and possibly final, definition of heteroflexible is someone who does sexual things with people of the opposite gender but is not attracted to them in any way, aka has no desire for people of the opposite/another gender. So a girl who kisses other girls for fun is bisexual. A girl who kisses other girls for attention or because her friend wants to and she literally does not care either way, is heteroflexible.)
So we started with a list. Each of these could be venn diagrams, though they’re written as equations.
Desire for opposite gender + desire for sex = hetero and sexual
Desire for your gender and opposite gender + no desire for sex = bi and asexual
Desire for everyone + desire for sex = pan and sexual
Desire for no gender + no desire for sex = asexual
Desire for opposite gender + desire for lots of sex = hetero and hyper sexual
Desire for no gender + desire for sex = ?
Following the standard form here, that would be asexual and sexual, which doesn’t really make sense. Unless the first bit is really your romantic leanings, which would make the person aromatic and something sexual. But that doesn’t actually work, because the second half of the equation is essentially the sex half, and the first half is the people half, so this one would be desire for sex without people. What does that amount to?
(In the same sense, I’m not sure that bi + asexual really works either. Unless we bring amount of each desire into the equation.)
Then the question followed, if sexuality is fluid and shifts over time — or even circumstance to circumstance — can you be more than one of these diagrams? Well, of course. So a venn diagram really is too simplistic to capture what someone’s sexuality looks like. You need a chart.
Here was my first attempt at a chart. I lost my right angles when I added in the romantic branch of the second z axis.
Since we weren’t talking about romantic leanings, anyway, I removed the romantic branch and tried again.
And bringing it back to my question earlier — that the equations above might only work if you can bring amount of each desire into the equation, well, on this chart you can do that. Frankly, on a venn diagram you can do that too, but I didn’t get around to drawing any of those…