Girls don’t want flings?

I ran into this idea a few weeks ago, that girls don’t want flings, either rarely or never.  The guy I was talking to was a date at the time, though that date was the last that I saw him.  Stands to reason.  I mean, you can take it as being honest, that all he said was “girls don’t normally want that type of thing.”  But you can also take it as being stupid.  And lumping me into a category with “all girls.”

But maybe he’s right.  Maybe most girls don’t put “short term fling” up on a dating website as the description of the type of relationship they want.  (I tried doing a quick and dirty search of and okcupid but I had to create a profile to do so and didn’t want to take the time.  So no un-scientific search results for you.  Just speculation.)  Or maybe they put it as one thing among a list of many, including the expected “long-term relationship.”

Or maybe girls are afraid to put “short term fling” on their profile because they don’t want to be marked as a “slut.”  So instead they put other things down, hoping for a short term relationship to trip and fall across their doorstep.

Or maybe this guy had a skewed idea of what individual girls wanted.  Because he was willing to view me, an individual, as an entire 50% of the population, as if we all have the same wants and desires.  And he was willing to say so out loud.

I will leave you with a comic I saw the other day that I absolutely loved.



About mybodymystory

Looking at things differently. I write about my personal experiences with society, especially regarding what messages I, as a woman, have received over time. I write about my body, not the body the media thinks I have or wants me to have. I write about my responses to sex, relationships, and political issues. This is my story of my body. There are a lot of things I write about that I believe overlap with other women. Come check out my story and see if you agree. Feel free to disagree, just be respectful about it.
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