This Friday reblog isn’t from WordPress, so it’s not the automatic reblog link, instead I’m linking the title below. I’m posting it as a contrasting opinion to my last Friday reblog (which wasn’t actually last week, but I’m busy, oh well). The most important thing from the last reblog, which I want to reiterate here is, “What happens during sex doesn’t really matter as long as you are having fun. However, this study is important because many women feel inadequate because they don’t “squirt.” In fact, I am asked about this a couple of times a month.”
I think this is important to reiterate because, while I agree with the tone and the information in this week’s reblog, I think that squirting can be used as a “you’re not getting good enough orgasms if you’re not doing this” or “you’re not as cool as porn if you’re not doing this” thing for women, and I completely disagree with that.
I want to start by saying that I do not know everything there is to now about squirting/female ejaculation. I am not a doctor, a scientist, or a researcher. What I am, however, is an expert at my own body. And I know that I ejaculate, and that is is most definitely not the same as peeing. I am not opposed to further study of the chemical makeup and process of squirting–I’m all for more research, and that is not what upsets me.
What upsets and angers me is when the media takes a very small (and arguably poorly designed) study of squirting and proclaims it the truth and the be-all end-all on the matter. I’m not going to link to the media outlets that wrote about it because I don’t want to send traffic to their crappy, patronizing articles, but I’ve read at least three that sensationalize this small, inconclusive study, declaring SQUIRTING IS REALLY JUST PEE all too gleefully.
I don’t care if my ejaculate is chemically similar to pee (and I don’t think there’s evidence that it is), but regardless, my experience of squirting during sex is NOT that of peeing and is tied to my pleasure and to call it “essentially adult bed wetting” is incredibly insulting, condescending, and damaging…