Category Archives: Communication

Marriage is a thing that happens

Note:  I wrote this post about 8 months ago and never finished it.  It wasn’t going quite where I had intended it to go, and I wasn’t sure where I intended it to go.  Now, over half a year later, … Continue reading

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Anger, part 1

I jump when a man gets angry and yells, even if it’s something as simple as “shit!” when he realizes he screwed something up.  I jump even if it’s not aimed at me, was never intending to be aimed at … Continue reading

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How to Break Up With Someone

I have experience breaking up with people and being broken up with.  The latest experience was being broken up with, and it gave me great insight into how not to do it to someone else.  Granted, that didn’t make it … Continue reading

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Questions Everyone Should Ask

What do you get out of being in a relationship?  What makes it worth it, ever?  What do you want me to do for you – what do you expect me to do for you? What does communicating mean to … Continue reading

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Defining Sex

What do you consider to be sex?  (Not sex the noun, sex the verb.)  At what point would you say, to yourself or others, that you had sex with [that person]? My current definition of sex is that both (or … Continue reading

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Clarity vs Underlying Assumptions

A couple of days ago, I went on a date with this guy and got the impression that he was looking for something long-term, while I had been clear that I was only looking for a fling.  And even if I’d been … Continue reading

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Threshold

The other day I was giving off massive “let’s have sexy times” signals to my boyfriend, and felt like I wasn’t receiving anything back — or at least, anything I knew how to interpret.  (We’ve been slowly having conversations to … Continue reading

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