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You Are Not Entitled to Friendship.

Originally posted on The Thinking Aro:
I’ve seen some romantic-sexual people, both in my own personal life and online, complain about aromantic and/or asexual friends of theirs withdrawing from, diminishing, or ending the friendship(s) they share, seemingly without reason or…

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Internalized Misogyny and BDSM

Why is it, that when everyone talks about BDSM being anti-feminist and upholding patriarchy and sexism, they only ever mention women being submissive? No one ever mentions the sub-cultural norm of a dominatrix, or switches, who can be either dominant … Continue reading

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Thanking my ex

I was heartbroken when my previous boyfriend broke up with me, but more than that, I was pissed off. Not because he broke up with me (which was probably what he would have thought) but because of the way he … Continue reading

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Marriage is a thing that happens

Note:  I wrote this post about 8 months ago and never finished it.  It wasn’t going quite where I had intended it to go, and I wasn’t sure where I intended it to go.  Now, over half a year later, … Continue reading

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Anger, part 2

There are two ways to legitimatize emotions. You can say that the emotions themselves are legitimate – that it is true that you feel that way. And you can say that the reasons behind the emotions are true – that … Continue reading

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Houses and Hearts part 7

(Houses and Hearts part 1 can be found here.) And so the world dissolved in anger.  Or exploded, perhaps is a better word.  The house came crashing down and it was a house of cards after all, but the cards … Continue reading

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Have you noticed how many people you touch in a day?  I’m talking about handshakes, hugs, kisses, pats on the shoulder, anything.  Often, I’ll go through a day without touching anyone at all — I’ll go through multiple days without … Continue reading

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